Pride. Yes, pride. Pride is the word I word use to describe the feeling I get whenever I think of the fact that I’m a South African. Actually it’s the only word I use. Not many countries on this planet can boast about giving birth to so many heroes and heroines; people who selflessly gave their lives to the struggle for non-discrimination and equality.
As South African men we boast everyday that we were the ones at the forefront of the fight for liberation. It’s no wonder that’s the case; I mean, those that are praised and those that are riding first class on the gravy train are mostly men. This coming from one of the handful of countries with a “Women’s Day” public holiday (a day to “appreciate”; at least that’s what the politicians tell us.) I still think we’re no doing enough to appreciate the rock-like souls that women portrayed (and still do) and what women sacrificed for this country and its people to be where they are today. While the men used their physicality and brawn to break free from the shackles of Apartheid, women were using their psyche and their minds to defeat the weapons of the oppressors. No gender did a greater percentage than the other in our journey to emancipation; everyone did their part. But we (men) seem to be the only ones benefiting form our democracy. If democracy was a tree, men would be under the shade and chomping on the juicy fruits the tree bore, while women are cutting of the weeds and getting fried by the sun. I’m sure a 100% of all women would agree with me right now. BUT… Yeah ladies, there’s a big “but”…lol…
The ladies are probably gonna hate me for what I’m about to say, but I’ll say it anyway (this is my blog after all.)
Women still need to know their place. It’s no mistake that God created us differently. There are certain things that men can do that women cannot (or sometimes should not) and things women can do that men cannot (or sometimes should not.) It’s not discrimination or sexism, it’s the facts of life. We were designed for tasks that coincide and are synchronized for the same purpose. Like it or not, men were designed to lead and to provide. While women were designed to bear life, nurture and to give strength by supporting their better halves (men). That is exactly what happened in the struggle for liberation – everyone played their position.
What really ticks me off (and in some way saddens me) is that women try “running” the world by abusing/misusing their their emotions, which in turn abuses the men’s emotions. They will act all vulnerable to men when it suits them, but when they see a man receiving praise, they wanna take charge. Their favourite line is: “Whatever a man can do, I can do as well.” Whenever you hear a woman say that, give them a pick and tell them to dig graves for funerals. Or politely ask them to pay the bill after dinner/lunch at a five star restaurant.
What I seem to notice is that modern women are obsessed with praise, and like using sympathy to get to where some men are. Women have such an advantage in today’s world but they complain too much to notice. These days a woman CAN be preferred for a job over a more qualified man just because they are female (notice that I said “can” & not “will”), especially in those so-called “male-dominated industries.” I really hate that phrase. I think women overuse it. It’s their way of saying: “Hire me coz I’ve got tits.”
Women are equally as smart as men and vice versa. But I wish they could stop competing with men and to stop using their sexuality or sex appeal to get to where some men are. RUN YOUR RACE AND STAY ON YOUR LANE! We’re a team; if men are the offence, then you’re the defence and vice versa. You cannot switch to the position where you get the most praise. The world works better when we’re parallel and in sync. Let’s be united in diversity on this beautiful land, South Africa, that is so alive with possibilities.
Who runs the world? Only God does. We’re just here to provide the entertainment.
‘Till Next Time Peeps, STAY GOODEST! (twitter – @kingyobho; Facebook – King Yolanda Klaas III)