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South Africans are using fewer condoms, sleeping around more and becoming less knowledgeable about HIV/AIDS, says the latest household survey by the Human Sciences Research Council (HSRC), released in March last year. And yet, as part of its newly launched safe sex campaign (probably the 100th safe sex campaign in South Africa), the South African Department of Health plans to distribute 3 billion flavoured male condoms, 54 million female condoms and 60 million lubricant packets during the next three years. The rebranded condoms and lube will be dispensed to 4,000 sites nationwide and will cost South African taxpayers 3.5 billion rands, according to The Conversation, an independant news source (I bet I impressed you with the stats hey, thank God for Google). I can think of a few things that are much more needed in South Africa that 3.5 billion rands can buy, instead of flavoured or scented condoms.
I am not denying that HIV/AIDS is a major problem in SA and free condoms are a huge necessity. But why should other major factors that we’re facing take a back seat? Female sanitation is a very serious yet ignored and widely considered taboo issue. Now I have never heard of any complaints of fault about the original/normal Choice condoms, yet we unnecessarily throw billions away on grape scented condoms. Yet poor South Africans, barely affording to buy a loaf of bread, have to buy basic sanitary pads to salvage whatever dignity they have left as government doesn’t seem to care enough. In rural areas, many girls use unhygienic alternatives to sanitary pads, such as newspaper or even sand and leaves, which puts them at a huge risk of infection. Many of these girls do not have mothers and come from child headed homes. Nine million girls aged between 13 and 19 miss a week of school every month, for lack of sanitary pads or tampons. They are missing over 25% of school because of something they have no control over. Now isn’t that reason enough to have sanitary pads available for free in a similar manner as condoms are?
Menstruation should not be a taboo subject, there is nothing shocking, dirty, embarrassing or shameful about it. Condoms used to be just as taboo, if not much more, yet we did manage to turn that around and made everyone realise that they are a necessity to the sexually active beings that we are. Excuse me for bashing the government, but they are the ones most needed to get involved. There is an amazing woman called Sue Barnes who started this organization called Project Dignity. Recognized and awarded the Clarins Most Dynamic Woman Award of 2013 for her tireless efforts to achieve her dream of a better and dignified world. She used resources not provided by those elected to protect our basic human rights (the government) and her fashion industry knowledge to help combat this struggle. She has created washable and reusable undergarments for girls (creating much needed jobs in the process) to be worn while they are on their periods. These undergarments are called “Subz”. She has been handing them out to underprivileged girls at schools for free. These undergarments are SABS approved for absorbency. This is an invention that has gone beyond just assisting those who couldn’t afford sanitary pads and tampons, it has also helped so many young girls to be comfortable and confident with themselves. But she did not only hand them out, she cared enough to talk to the girls and realised that they knew nothing about what was happening with their bodies. So she then began educating them on puberty and menstruation. She gladly lends them her ears and offers a caring shoulder to cry on. Now imagine if she could get some backing from our government how much of a difference it would make on millions of lives in our country. But all they care about is organizing Women’s Day High Tea events. Information on how you can buy Subz or give much needed donations to Project Dignity are available at: http://www.subzpads.co.za/ and http://www.projectdignity.org.za/
The problem we have in South Africa is thinking one has to be directly affected by something to care about it. And we think one has to be rich to help the needy. Bill Gates once asked, “Who has ever became poor by giving?” Now I hope people have understood me well, I am not undermining the government’s efforts on fighting HIV/AIDS and teen pregnancy, I am just frustrated that they are treated as though there’s no other struggle South Africans are facing that is as sad and less dignifying… >>>The views expressed in this blog post are not that of Sue Barnes, Subz Pads or Project Dignity, they completely belong to me<<<
Now I bet females be like, “Nigga, when did you become an expert on sanitary pads, all of a sudden?”… I’ve dated, okay!? Get off my case 😉
‘Till Next Time Peeps, BHA-BHAYINI!
25 years of life. I have been alive for a freakin’ quarter of a century. For as long as I can remember, my biggest fear hasn’t been heights, clowns, or dentists. My greatest fear has been getting old – and it’s finally coming true 😥 . But you can’t fight fate or evade nature. I haven’t a choice but to embrace the fact that I’m getting old.
But I look back at my life life with some sort of pride in the sort of man that I have turned or rather evolved into. There are many individuals, men and women (some I’ve never & probably will never meet), that have shaped and molded my life into what it is and what it can be. It’s no secret that my only goal in life is to remove the negative stigma around black men. Seeing as this is my 25th birthday, I’m writing about the 25 black men I look up to and intend to achieve success similar to theirs.
No. 25. JOMO SONO/KAIZER MOTAUNG :- These footballing legends have not only carved their names in stone with their mesmerizing footballing ability, but with their ability to successfully transform two township football clubs into well-respected and easily recognizable brands that expand beyond the football pitch. All this during South Africa’s most difficult time – apartheid.
No. 24. TYLER PERRY :- One of the most versatile actors/comedians. Growing up poor and sexually abused did not stop him from becoming one of the wealthiest film-makers in the world.
No. 23. NELSON MANDELA :- Need I explain why..? The name alone speaks deafening volumes.
No. 22. EARVIN “MAGIC” JOHNSON :- Talent accompanied by brains is an impenetrable shield against failure. Magic Johnson possessed this shield. He went from a magician in the basketball court to a magician in the boardroom. From playing for the LA Lakers, to owning the LA Lakers. After selling his Lakers shares, he now owns part of the LA Dodgers (MLB baseball team). He’s ballin’… in more ways than one.
No. 21. ARCHBISHOP DESMOND TUTU :- A man not afraid to speak his mind. He was at the forefront in rallying to have Mandela released during apartheid, and publicly admonished President Zuma for refusing The Dalai Lama enterance into South Africa. I hope to meet him some day.
No. 20. STEVE HARVEY :- An “Original King of Comedy”. He is a daytime talk-show host, has two radio talk-shows, has a New York Times best-selling book, and he has his own range of formal ties… HUSTLER!
No. 19. AKON :- Born in Senegal but grew up in America. After making millions from his successful music career, Akon didn’t forget where he came from, and built solar panels that will provide 600 million Africans (that’s half the continent) with electricity.
No. 18. DR. DRE :- The first rapper to make a billion dollars. All this began by him and his group rapping about the struggles of young black men in the ghetto. But what I admire most about him is that his greatness is defined by the number of rappers he made successful. 50 Cent, Eminem, The Game, Kendrick Lamar, & Snoop Dogg.
No. 17. MZILIKAZI WA AFRIKA :- A fearless freedom fighter and extraordinary investigative journalist who stood firm for what he believed was in the public interest. And also excelled in music. Author of “Nothing Left To Steal”. A superb wordsmith.
No. 16. HAILE SELASSIE :- Leader of Ethiopia and a great symbol of African independence against colonialism. An outstanding leader during World War II, resisting to the invasion of the Italians.
No. 15. KOFI ANNAN :- The first African to be named United Nations Secretary General (served tow terms). His skills of great patience and diplomacy are things I admire about him. Even after retiring from the UN, he is still a pursuer of peace and security with his non-profit organization “Kofi Annan Foundation.”
No. 14. JOHN SINGLETON/SPIKE LEE :- Probably the first movie directors to portray the true happenings of the ghetto in movies. Great film-makers who showed that everyone, from whatever background, has a story to tell.
No. 13. MICHAEL JACKSON :- A pioneer of music, dance and music videos. Michael Jackson has been relevant for the past 50 years with his music. Though he may have died heavily in debt, his relevance for half a century is a feat that I don’t think will ever be achieved again.
No. 12. OLIVER TAMBO :- He led the fight against apartheid outside the South African borders while in exile. The educated millions outside South Africa about apartheid and influenced them to fight for what’s just, right & moral.
No. 11. TIGER WOODS :- A black man who broke boundaries with his brilliance in a sport dominated by whites. Though controversy followed him, he was man enough to admit his mistakes and apologize for them. Then made an incredible comeback to the top of the world golf rankings. His perseverance is thought-provoking.
No. 10. PELE :- Coming from deep poverty to being regarded as the greatest and finest footballer of all time. He had the utmost dedication and love for football. He’s now an advocate for overcoming poverty.
No. 9. AGGREY KLAASTE :- Successfully pushed the “nation building” concept as the editor of Sowetan during the struggle years. The first black South African journalist to achieve legendary status.
No. 8. CHINUA ACHEBE :- The best-selling, greatest and widely read African novelist, poet and writer. I want to achieve similar status as this legendary writer. He has great praise that is borderline godly.
No. 7. JOHN KANI :- A brilliant stage actor and playwright. He has received countless international accolades and appeared in many international productions. He even has a theatre named after him. Not forgetting his incredible wisdom.
No. 6. BOB MARLEY :- He showed it was okay to be different. He put Rastafarianism on the map. He was also a social commentator for the emancipation of black people from slave mentality.
No. 5. NKOSI JOHNSON :- He may have died at aged 11, but he was more of a man than most men in today’s world. Probably the first relevant HIV/AIDS activist. Made billions around the world understand what AIDS truly is.
No. 4. THABO MBEKI :- Mandela’s chosen successor. He personified the word intelligence. A true believer in African Renaissance and quiet diplomacy. One of the very few dignified African leaders.
No. 3. MOHAMMED ALI :- The only boxer to ever defeat his opponents before setting a foot in the ring. He showed all you need to conquer your enemies is to defeat their minds.
No. 2. JOHNNY KLAAS (My Father) :- A man that would rather starve than see his child have nothing to eat. A man who’d rather go shirtless that see his child wear rags. The kindest man I’ve known. Also a man I’ve never seen back down from a fight. I smile with pride everytime I hear someone say “You look exactly like your dad.”
No. 1. KHANYILE KLAAS (My Brother) :- From ward councilor (driving a Mazda 3), to being unemployed (& no car), to then being the deputy mayor (& driving a Mercedes Benz). He proves that once you fall from great heights, get up and climb to greater heights than before… And HUSTLE NIGGA HUSTLE!
I plan to emulate these great black gentleman and hope to inspire the same sort of greatness in others like they have inspired me. Laziness is the hindrance of potential, and complacency the hindrance of an intelligent mind. So I plan to never waste my potential and never be complacent and rest on my laurels should I achieve my desired goals. I suggest you follow my lead.
‘Till Next Time Peeps, BHA-BHAYINI!
Pride. Yes, pride. Pride is the word I word use to describe the feeling I get whenever I think of the fact that I’m a South African. Actually it’s the only word I use. Not many countries on this planet can boast about giving birth to so many heroes and heroines; people who selflessly gave their lives to the struggle for non-discrimination and equality.
As South African men we boast everyday that we were the ones at the forefront of the fight for liberation. It’s no wonder that’s the case; I mean, those that are praised and those that are riding first class on the gravy train are mostly men. This coming from one of the handful of countries with a “Women’s Day” public holiday (a day to “appreciate”; at least that’s what the politicians tell us.) I still think we’re no doing enough to appreciate the rock-like souls that women portrayed (and still do) and what women sacrificed for this country and its people to be where they are today. While the men used their physicality and brawn to break free from the shackles of Apartheid, women were using their psyche and their minds to defeat the weapons of the oppressors. No gender did a greater percentage than the other in our journey to emancipation; everyone did their part. But we (men) seem to be the only ones benefiting form our democracy. If democracy was a tree, men would be under the shade and chomping on the juicy fruits the tree bore, while women are cutting of the weeds and getting fried by the sun. I’m sure a 100% of all women would agree with me right now. BUT… Yeah ladies, there’s a big “but”…lol…
The ladies are probably gonna hate me for what I’m about to say, but I’ll say it anyway (this is my blog after all.)
Women still need to know their place. It’s no mistake that God created us differently. There are certain things that men can do that women cannot (or sometimes should not) and things women can do that men cannot (or sometimes should not.) It’s not discrimination or sexism, it’s the facts of life. We were designed for tasks that coincide and are synchronized for the same purpose. Like it or not, men were designed to lead and to provide. While women were designed to bear life, nurture and to give strength by supporting their better halves (men). That is exactly what happened in the struggle for liberation – everyone played their position.
What really ticks me off (and in some way saddens me) is that women try “running” the world by abusing/misusing their their emotions, which in turn abuses the men’s emotions. They will act all vulnerable to men when it suits them, but when they see a man receiving praise, they wanna take charge. Their favourite line is: “Whatever a man can do, I can do as well.” Whenever you hear a woman say that, give them a pick and tell them to dig graves for funerals. Or politely ask them to pay the bill after dinner/lunch at a five star restaurant.
What I seem to notice is that modern women are obsessed with praise, and like using sympathy to get to where some men are. Women have such an advantage in today’s world but they complain too much to notice. These days a woman CAN be preferred for a job over a more qualified man just because they are female (notice that I said “can” & not “will”), especially in those so-called “male-dominated industries.” I really hate that phrase. I think women overuse it. It’s their way of saying: “Hire me coz I’ve got tits.”
Women are equally as smart as men and vice versa. But I wish they could stop competing with men and to stop using their sexuality or sex appeal to get to where some men are. RUN YOUR RACE AND STAY ON YOUR LANE! We’re a team; if men are the offence, then you’re the defence and vice versa. You cannot switch to the position where you get the most praise. The world works better when we’re parallel and in sync. Let’s be united in diversity on this beautiful land, South Africa, that is so alive with possibilities.
Who runs the world? Only God does. We’re just here to provide the entertainment.
‘Till Next Time Peeps, STAY GOODEST! (twitter – @kingyobho; Facebook – King Yolanda Klaas III)